It's Not Betrayal to Ease Your Grief

Dec 10 / Marg Recoskie
Many of us have experienced the death of a loved one – or even a favorite pet. It’s heartbreaking.

Some of us ease the grief of a lost pet by getting another one, but that’s not something we can do with a person. You can’t go to the store and ask for a replacement. It just doesn’t work that way.

The Survivor

The survivor is plagued with a sense of loss (aka grief), which may be further complicated by feelings of remorse, guilt, anger, shame, regret, hatred – all depending on the way the loved one died, or the way the two of you reacted to each other.

Some families lose contact with each other, either intentionally or unintentionally, and never speak for years. There may be underlying feelings of remorse, regret, guilt for not having communicated with the loved one during their life. Maybe there’s even a feeling of relief that they’re gone, followed by guilt over feeling relief. It can be a never-ending circle of unwanted, powerful emotions that just won’t go away. And in the off chance that you can “forget” them, you’ll notice that they will pop up again and again throughout the rest of your life, bringing the same emotions back into play.

The Memories Eat Away at Us

When we have these strong, unpleasant memories and emotions, they begin to eat away at us by releasing chemicals into the body at an unprecedented rate. These chemicals, when released consistently over time, actually cause physical damage to our bodies. Often we manifest that damage via widespread pain, or chronic disease/autoimmune disease.

Because the body never forgets that we have unresolved emotions, it keeps producing these chemicals forever, and it’s impossible to properly heal the body without first healing (resolving) those memories and emotions.

In other words, healing (resolving) our emotions related to grief is not a betrayal to our loved one. It is actually preservation of our body/mind/emotions. It is the self care that we so desperately need.

Your loved one would not want you to suffer needlessly and make yourself sick in the process. That’s not what love is. Love is wanting all the best, happiest, healthiest things for the other person.

You Don't Have to Grieve Forever

That means you don’t have to deal with grief forever. You can find a way to ease that grief. You will never forget the person, but you can retain the happy and loving memories, instead of the devastating sadness and loss.

Reach Out for Help

As a Certified Aroma Freedom Practitioner, I am trained to help you through the process where you can go from bottomless grief, sadness and feelings of loss, to a happier, fuller life of joy. Will you forget your loved one? No, of course not. But the memories will not be as raw as they have been. You will actually remember the good times (and maybe some not so good times) but they won't hurt you. You'll remember them with fondness rather than inconsolable grief.

It’s your choice. It’s not betrayal to ease your grief.

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